Make your own free website on Tripod.com

Welcome To Aleacha Sweeting Praise Stories

Hiding the Problem is the biggest Problem
Home
Freedom in Truth
santification
Hiding the Problem is the biggest Problem
Loneliness
My Testimony!!
Prayers
Cont' Prayers
Knowing when to let go!
Every Day is the Day of Thanksgiving
Alone and Hurting...
In Memory Of
Angels
Worry Flees When One Believes
Contact Me
Favorite Links

Hiding the Problems is the Biggest Problem


It is the hidden things in our life that can cause us the greatest physical and spiritual harm. Life would be so much easier for us if the roots to our problems were not hidden so well. If we could just reach down to what holds them in place and discover what gives them negative influencing power, we could deal with them God's way and be cured. We could renounce any sin that was involved, and we could renounce the curses of them since God's Word tells us that Jesus' death on the cross was for this purpose, too. We could confess and repent of our own willful involvement in these sins if that were the case. We could forgive the perpetrator who sinned against us by believing that God is just and holy and will make certain justice is done for His name’s sake. Then, we could lay down our right to feel hurt and angry, fully trusting in the Father to heal our wounds this problem created. However, we cannot do these wonderful things if we do not know the problems' roots, or if we are unaware that the problem even exists.

The three D's that hide problems and their roots

  • Demons - Satan's unclean spirits that use trickery to block the person from discovering what his or her problem is and what its roots might be.
  • Deception - Deliberate and controllable action of the human will that blocks someone else’s discovery of the problem or events responsible for causing it.
  • Dissociation - The awful result of trauma that leaves one part of the person knowing exactly what happened (an alter personality), but that one part deliberately hides it from all the rest of the person and everyone else.

Out of the three D's that hide problems (demons, deception and dissociation), demons are the most easily dealt with. When the Father sees that we sincerely want to be free, He will make the demons divulge the problems they hide and all the events that surround them. Our Father will make the demons confess their strongholds whenever He has determined we are ready to deal with the matter His way and not ours.

Deception and dissociation are the two D's most difficult to handle since these are attributed to the choice of the human free will. Our Father is gentle and will not always expose a problem that we, or some other part of ourselves, fight so hard to hide. These two D's can only be dealt with by way of openness and honesty. Both openness and honesty must come from us. It must be our own free will decision to share with Him our problems, and confess our sins to Him. He invites us to come to Him, but He will not make us come to Him. He tells us we must be open and be honest with Him, but He allows us the free will to disobey Him. The problem with disobedience is that it secures bondage and can never free us.

Reasons why some people continue to hide their problems

  • guilt
  • shame
  • pride
  • emotional pain
  • fear
  • trust issues

Whenever we have a problem we'd like to keep to ourselves, we are quick to defend against someone finding out what that the real problem is. Although the exact nature of our problem might not be made known by what we do or say, a person who knows what to look for can easily determine a problem exists in us. The give-away clues are commonly known as defense mechanisms. Defense mechanisms are behaviors we use to defend our secrets.

  • quick subject changes
  • faking sudden illnesses
  • pouting or crying
  • instigating arguments that have nothing to do with the current subject matter
  • excessive questioning with intentional refusal to accept another's answers
  • withdrawal
  • excessive excuse making
  • morbid joking about hurtful incidents
  • defiance - doing and saying the opposite of what's right
  • anger
  • sarcasm
  • shouting
  • silent treatments
  • lying - including self-deception
  • fantasy - inventing unrelated problems that do not really exist
  • manipulative behavior that demands others tiptoe around you or they must pay dearly
  • making threats - suicidal & self-injurious responses whenever too close to the truth of a matter

The biggest problem is hiding the other problems. It is the blockage that prevents us from escaping our emotional pain. It is unrealistic to expect any healing without God's help. And God may hold back His help until we are totally honest and open with Him and with ourselves. Unless dealt with God's way, the emotional wounds continue to fester and can get worse.

Enter content here

Enter supporting content here

"You have reached this website by "divine appointment". Did you know that God allows "U-turns" in life?
It doesn't matter who you are or where you have been. God still loves you, and he wants you to have life, and have more life abundantly.... He has you on his mind and he is willing to help you. He wants to heal you every where you hurt, all you have to do is accept him into your life today, he will uphold you,and most of all he will forgive you.
Welcome to my webpage, I do pray that when you leave here you will leave here Blessed. I pray that this website will be a blessing to you and that you will come again, soon.
Love
Aleacha
 
God is the Joy and the Strength of my life! God is my all!

2007-2008 Aleacha Sweeting Praise Stories. All Rights Reserved